Are you one of these peeps who continually ignore their own needs? You know you have to give yourself some tender loving care, but you’re always ignoring the call?
You are not alone.
I recently conducted a survey probing the minds of my followers (and thanks to all of you who answered my questions.)
What I heard back from so many of you was one common theme: you don’t have enough time to care for yourself. Busy with work, busy taking care of others and so busy that you don’t even notice that you put yourself on the back burner until you get BURNT OUT!
You all have the same desire: to take better care of yourself. Deep down, you know that you deserve to treat yourself better, to FEEL better, to BE better.
Self-care is an essential part of a healthy lifestyle. Taking time out for yourself keeps you balanced, healthy, energized, and (careful, now) BLISSFUL!
Self-care is also an integral part of BRAIN HEALTH. The more in-tune you are with your mind and body, the better you will become at caring for your mental and physical health. You’ll have better self-esteem, be kinder to yourself, have lower stress levels, and feel more calm and centered. Your brain likes it when you are kind to yourself.
Let’s get one thing out of the way: Self-care is often associated with selfishness and lazy, over-indulgent behavior. Don’t buy into this!
Taking the time to check in with your mind and body is not selfish. It’s your natural right. Think about it: you take care of LOTS of things. You take care of the kids, the house, the hubby, the job — heck, you perform regular maintenance on your car, don’t you?
With that logic, isn’t it unreasonable to NOT take time for routine maintenance on yourself?
“You cannot pour from an empty cup.” — Eleanor Brown
Practicing self-care allows you to open your heart even wider when you care for others. Striking a delicate balance may feel counterintuitive at first. You must restructure your responsibility to others that might rely on you too much, and take some time back for yourself. Only then can you really show up in a positive mood.
:: Here’s a small quiz: There are no right or wrong answers, these are just some questions to get you familiar with where you stand:
:: What is holding you back from taking better care of yourself? Give yourself time to ponder this.
You may know immediately but allow yourself to dig a little deeper.
:: What might your life look like if you made self-care an integral part of your life?
:: What would it look like if you carved out ME TIME every day?
:: How would you feel?
:: Are there any life factors that hold you back from carving out a little ME time every day?
“Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” — Lucille Ball
Here are four time-bomb miracles so you can take time every day to pull back from the demands and stress, so you can relax, rejuvenate, and gain clarity.
What is a TIME BOMB MIRACLE?
You’ve all heard the phrase “ticking time bomb.” It means that something will become DANGEROUS if it’s not immediately addressed. Gals, if you don’t address the fact that you feel worn down, uncared for, and stressed out, you just might explode! Seriously!
So before you break all your dishes in a storm, make a commitment right now. Promise yourself that you will take at least 20 minutes PER DAY for yourself. Just start there. These few minutes will make you calmer, allow you to decompress, and put a little joy in your step.
To get you started, I’m sharing with you some of the things I do every day:
Get Out Of Your Mind And Into Your Body
Feel, Breathe, Move.
You don’t have to sign up for a gym membership or throw yourself into the latest trendy exercise program to move your body. It’s as simple as turning on your favorite music and dancing around your living room. Stretch, reach, shake. Get on the floor and roll around. Really! Just be childlike and wiggle around. You’ll get your blood moving, activate your breathing and loosen up your tight and tired body.
Be present while sitting in your backyard or in a park. Take a walk around your neighborhood. Spend time outside, breathing the fresh air, feeling the sun on your face, with no cellphones or screens. You don’t need a destination, you just need the great outdoors.
Play, Have Fun, Feel Pleasure
Get a little impulsive! Do something out of your normal routine. Allow yourself to explore a part of the city you’ve never been to before. Pique your curiosity. Laugh more. Lighten up! This miracle bomb might just inspire you in unexpected ways.
This is probably your biggest issue, and you don’t even know it. So much of your precious time is being sapped by the constant pings and the mental strain that WE ALL EXPERIENCE in the name of “staying connected.” Problem is – this connectivity to the whole world through a small screen has pulled us anyway from ourselves. Don’t be a slave to the pressure of every notification or message.
Turn off your phone, close your laptop screen.
Take a breath.
“Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you.”
– Anne Lamott
The goal is to get you in a space where you can activate this part of your life. If you aren’t carving out daily time for yourself now, then you got to ease into it… remember time is the issue, so let’s start slow: ten to 20 minutes here, ten to 20 minutes there.
Yo, sister – you CAN “treat yo’self!” By treating yourself as you treat a friend, as someone WORTHY of CARE, you’ll be shocked at how much more you’ll like yourself. And hey — you might even become more fun to be around. Starting today, become the low-stress, clear perspective, chill person you know you are. Your health will thank you!